I run a blog where I discuss the topic of the many games people play in the dating arena. I've posted hundreds of articles, many of which point out many of these troubles. Even if you haven't read the blog, you probably are aware of some of these schemes. While I wish it were easy to sum everything up into one neat, overlying problem, it's not that simple. Let me point out just a few of the issues.
For one, there's a definite lack of respect in dating nowadays. People don't even care about their partners enough to treat them as they deserve to be treated. Gossip, ridiculously high expectations, and rejections by ignorance are only some of the examples in this area. Grandparents are always carrying on about how today's generation has such a lack of respect. They talk about how, in their day, people cared about others and banded together through difficult problems. Why do they talk about these things? Because they're right! Through every activity in which I've been involved, I've encountered this problem. I'm tired of working for a hundred hours on a video project when the president of the organization receives but doesn't bother to even reply to your E-Mails asking him to review it. I'm sick of being ostracized from groups because I don't care to participate in their petty disagreements. And I'm exhausted after people expect me to work to death in volunteer organizations!
There are always exceptions to this rule, and I'm sure that there are many people who do have a great deal of respect for both their peers and their elders. Unfortunately, the majority, or at least the majority with the most influence, simply don't care.
Second, nobody is honest with themselves, let alone anyone else. Dating has turned into a torrent of backstabbing of which even Mark Burnett would be proud. Asking someone out is nearly impossible, because the gossip about it has already spread to a thousand people before you make the move. Then, when a rejection occurs (even if it's not rude), the rejector spreads rumors around to all his/her friends that cause them to completely ignore you, refusing to invite you to parties or even to initiate conversations with you. The biggest insult is that even if you asked point-blank, you'd still never get a truthful answer as to why such harm was directed towards you.
As if what occurs after a rejection isn't enough, people attempt to steal others' girl/boyfriends. One day, things are going well, and the next you find yourself wondering what happened to the relationship that was forming - that is, until you notice that person spending a lot of time with who you thought was your best friend. No explanation is offered, not even a "good-bye."
Third, people are not looking for someone who spends his or her time working to get ahead instead of getting flat-out drunk, who doesn't curse at or ignore his or her mate, and who actually makes time for whatever is occurring between them (whether it be a full-fledged relationship or just plain sex). They say they're looking for these things, but in reality, they're attracted to people with the attributes described above. "Confidence" is not the answer to the equation. Assuming they both possess the same level of "confidence," the above-described person would win every time over the "warm, caring, and intelligent" (wo)man that people claim is the ideal mate.
The list of problems goes on. You might be intrigued to hear that while the problems seem innumerable, I propose they can all be rectified with the simplest of solutions. There's no danger involved, nobody has to lead radical changes, and it doesn't involve an "impossible" fight against biology.
I simply propose for men to stop asking women out.
Not for the rest of your life, but for just a short time, say, a month. It's not impossible, and you won't have to do it as much after the month passes. While there are a few (rare) exceptions, the vast majority of women don't ask out men 50% of the time. Women do have the advantage in dating, and it's time to level the playing field. Sure, talk with women as friends, and if someone initiates a conversation with you, then definitely reciprocate. However, let the woman ask you out if she's interested, no matter how attractive she is to you.
Some women have never asked anyone out in their lives. It's no wonder why these women continually treat men like they're lower beings. If they had to put up with the rejections that most men do all the time, I guarantee that they would have more respect for men. Women would no longer put up with moving from guy to guy based on who was interested in her at the moment. And spreading gossip about potential romantic interests certainly isn't going to help one's prospects.
People need to realize that humans, for all their ancestry, are not monkeys or horses or rabbits. They're humans, who can think and act for themselves.
Men have so much more capacity in the dating arena than constantly looking for sex at all costs, if they would only exercise it. It's time to stop being prisoners to so-called "biology." Women have the same urges men do, and they should do half the work, not 10% or 20%.
There are a lot of "seduction communities" on the Internet that teach men how to "seduce" women. I don't know of any similar organization that teaches women how to impress men with the same fervor.
There's my proposal. I don't think it's hard to implement. Imagine if all the men even at one corporation or university decided to ban together. Laziness won't be a problem, becausenobody even has to do anything. It's time to change our distorted culture. All I'm suggesting is to promote equality. Is that such a bad thing?
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About the author:
Steve Sokolowski is the editor of "Games are for Children" (http://www.shoemakervillage.org/games), a dating blog that implores people to rise above the pettiness present in today's dating world.
Sunday, September 30, 2007
Does Online Dating Work?
Dating Online is currently the Internets biggest craze, and its here to stay! But does it actually work?
I mean, there are tons of Dating websites, but their success with matchmaking is kept rather low key, and I found out why.
When I was searching for Online dating websites, I felt that I couldn’t trust many of the companies and that they were just trying to get money out of me. After many hours of research I was exhausted by the idea of Online Dating, it just seemed more hassle than what it was worth, but I was determined to see it through.
A lot of websites that I researched were either free or had rock bottom membership fees, and I found that these were the worst to go to, bar a few exceptions. Eventually I found a handful of websites that I could trust and were worth the money that they were charging, but it just took so long to find these trust-worthy sites.
So I signed up and begrudgingly paid the membership fee. One of the most important aspects I learnt early on is that your personal profile that you place on the dating website should be immaculate! By this I mean spend time modifying and perfecting your profile, as this is what counts the most! The last thing you want is to be receiving messages from other adults who are just not right for you, its better to make contact with another adult who is very similar to yourself, than to make contact with 10 adults who only share a few similarities.
Eventually I started meeting other people who were very compatible to myself, and as a result have made 2 great friends who are now a major part in my life and have been going out with my long-term girlfriend for over a year (I’m planning a trip to New York at Christmas, so that I can propose to her!)
Online Dating has worked wonders for me, even though it’s taken time to get their, and I Strongly believe that if you spent time looking for the right Dating website, that’s suits you and your needs then you will also have similar success. This thought gave me a brainwave.
I thought how great it would be if their was a website that had a list of all the best Dating websites, that listed these trustworthy companies, so that the biggest hassle is taken away and you can start meeting and communicating with other adults, without having to waste time looking for the best companies. So that’s what I did. I designed a website that was split into sections for American Singles, Gay personals, Jewish Singles and Christian Dating, with the best dating websites for each category.
It is full of information about Online Dating, with reviews of every Dating website and loads of interesting, related articles. There is also help on the best way of writing your personal profile.
Best of luck!!
About the author:
Adrian Knight is author of many articles related to Online Dating. He writes truthfully from his own experience of dating
I mean, there are tons of Dating websites, but their success with matchmaking is kept rather low key, and I found out why.
When I was searching for Online dating websites, I felt that I couldn’t trust many of the companies and that they were just trying to get money out of me. After many hours of research I was exhausted by the idea of Online Dating, it just seemed more hassle than what it was worth, but I was determined to see it through.
A lot of websites that I researched were either free or had rock bottom membership fees, and I found that these were the worst to go to, bar a few exceptions. Eventually I found a handful of websites that I could trust and were worth the money that they were charging, but it just took so long to find these trust-worthy sites.
So I signed up and begrudgingly paid the membership fee. One of the most important aspects I learnt early on is that your personal profile that you place on the dating website should be immaculate! By this I mean spend time modifying and perfecting your profile, as this is what counts the most! The last thing you want is to be receiving messages from other adults who are just not right for you, its better to make contact with another adult who is very similar to yourself, than to make contact with 10 adults who only share a few similarities.
Eventually I started meeting other people who were very compatible to myself, and as a result have made 2 great friends who are now a major part in my life and have been going out with my long-term girlfriend for over a year (I’m planning a trip to New York at Christmas, so that I can propose to her!)
Online Dating has worked wonders for me, even though it’s taken time to get their, and I Strongly believe that if you spent time looking for the right Dating website, that’s suits you and your needs then you will also have similar success. This thought gave me a brainwave.
I thought how great it would be if their was a website that had a list of all the best Dating websites, that listed these trustworthy companies, so that the biggest hassle is taken away and you can start meeting and communicating with other adults, without having to waste time looking for the best companies. So that’s what I did. I designed a website that was split into sections for American Singles, Gay personals, Jewish Singles and Christian Dating, with the best dating websites for each category.
It is full of information about Online Dating, with reviews of every Dating website and loads of interesting, related articles. There is also help on the best way of writing your personal profile.
Best of luck!!
About the author:
Adrian Knight is author of many articles related to Online Dating. He writes truthfully from his own experience of dating
Female Self Pleasuring Tips For The Adventurous Woman
Unlike men, whose sex organs are available for self pleasure by stroking and stimulating any time of the day, women have to contrive to entice their clitoris out of hiding and available for pleasuring. One of the most common female self pleasuring tips is the use of sex toys and gadgets.
Luckily for us, female self pleasure toys can be found in our very own kitchen. Sure, jokes have been made about this, but it’s true. The usual suspects here are any penis-like vegetables and fruits, like carrots, cucumbers or zucchinis. Bananas are too soft to do the trick. Sometimes, un-penis-like fruits and vegetables can create another type of female self pleasure as a form of taste aphrodisiac: cherries, grapes, or sections of oranges. Feel free to use different female self pleasure techniques to enhance your arousal. Inserting any of the penis-like items inside your vulva, as you would a dildo will add to your self pleasure. As a female self pleasure technique, the use of fruits and vegetables has a lot going for it: It will not endanger you physically, in contrast to, for example, using a bottle, which might break inside you, or, a piece of wood, which might splinter--ouch! I am not sure that anyone has ever used an open bottle for this purpose, but it is worth cautioning all women against it: An open bottle will form a-suction inside you and it would be quite impossible to remove it without the embarrassment of explaining to a doctor why you are depositing strange objects inside your vagina.
After you’ve pleasured yourself with just about everything you can from your fridge, you might want to try a dildo. Dildos have been manufactured to be sold and used especially for female self pleasuring. They were not merely created to aid men in their sexual fantasies when they watch all those erotic movies. Erotic movies, however, are very informative when it comes to learning how to use dildos. Use a dildo to massage your clitoris and slide it in and out and around your vagina. Even better are the men, who possess the lingual skillfulness similar to a dildo but more importantly, they are selfless enough to aspire to that ability. Either way, these great female self pleasuring techniques will open up a whole new world of female self pleasuring ideas.
Copyright 2005 – E.J. Davis
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About the author:
E.J. Davis is a writer who firmly believes that the ultimate pleasure begins with a simple caress. She currently writes for a1-online-dating.com
Luckily for us, female self pleasure toys can be found in our very own kitchen. Sure, jokes have been made about this, but it’s true. The usual suspects here are any penis-like vegetables and fruits, like carrots, cucumbers or zucchinis. Bananas are too soft to do the trick. Sometimes, un-penis-like fruits and vegetables can create another type of female self pleasure as a form of taste aphrodisiac: cherries, grapes, or sections of oranges. Feel free to use different female self pleasure techniques to enhance your arousal. Inserting any of the penis-like items inside your vulva, as you would a dildo will add to your self pleasure. As a female self pleasure technique, the use of fruits and vegetables has a lot going for it: It will not endanger you physically, in contrast to, for example, using a bottle, which might break inside you, or, a piece of wood, which might splinter--ouch! I am not sure that anyone has ever used an open bottle for this purpose, but it is worth cautioning all women against it: An open bottle will form a-suction inside you and it would be quite impossible to remove it without the embarrassment of explaining to a doctor why you are depositing strange objects inside your vagina.
After you’ve pleasured yourself with just about everything you can from your fridge, you might want to try a dildo. Dildos have been manufactured to be sold and used especially for female self pleasuring. They were not merely created to aid men in their sexual fantasies when they watch all those erotic movies. Erotic movies, however, are very informative when it comes to learning how to use dildos. Use a dildo to massage your clitoris and slide it in and out and around your vagina. Even better are the men, who possess the lingual skillfulness similar to a dildo but more importantly, they are selfless enough to aspire to that ability. Either way, these great female self pleasuring techniques will open up a whole new world of female self pleasuring ideas.
Copyright 2005 – E.J. Davis
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About the author:
E.J. Davis is a writer who firmly believes that the ultimate pleasure begins with a simple caress. She currently writes for a1-online-dating.com
How to Have Better Relationships with Men
Menn er ikke et mysterium når De lærer lese dem!
If you know how to read Norwegian, then you know that the title of this article is:
“Men are not a mystery when you know how to read them!”
But if you don’t read Norwegian then you were left in the dark. My point? Most women have no idea how to read men. Sure, we may think that we know what they’re thinking; we may think that we know what they want, but the truth is: Most of us would have better luck translating Norwegian than we would understanding what’s really going on in the average man’s head.
Here’s a quick quiz for you. Let’s see how you do:
1. I try to be nice to men and they reject me (T/F).
2. I want men to please me but they rarely do (T/F)
3. I have no idea what triggers a man to reject a woman (T/F)
4. I end up turning off men who seem interested in me (T/F)
I said it was a quick quiz, so I won’t bother listing the hundreds of other “male mysteries” that we are confronted with every day. It’s enough to simply say: “What in the hell do they really want and how do I show them that I have it?”
Look, get your mind out of the bedroom for a minute. We all know that men have two entirely different brains and that one of those brains has only one goal in life. If that’s your only goal as well, then you don’t need to understand how men think. All you have to do is waive your booty around and guys will snap you up at night and spit you out in the morning.
But if you are truly interested in finding someone that you can have a committed relationship with (whatever that means to you), then you’re going have to start figuring out how that other brain works. I’m talking about the brain that’s more complex; the one with multiple needs, feelings, and ego. Unfortunately, when you start trying to get some attention from that brain, everything turns Norwegian on you.
It may be fun and easy to blame the language barrier on the guys, but this failure to communicate is not their fault. Now some of you are going to hate me for saying this, but the truth is – the fault is ours.
Let me tell you a short story that will illustrate what I mean. A few years ago I went to Toronto for business. I walked into a convenience store to buy some mints and a bottle of water. The clerk rang up the order and gave me the price in Canadian dollars. I asked her how much that was in American dollars. She replied “I don’t know, we don’t accept American dollars.” I was shocked! “You don’t accept American dollars?” She replied “If I came into your store in America and tried to pay with Canadian dollars, would you take them?” I saw her point immediately. I was expecting her version of “normal” to match my version of normal. It didn’t match and I left the store without my mints and water.
Well friends, we women make the very same error every time we try to communicate with men. Our vision of “normal” doesn’t match theirs. Is that their fault? No. It’s our fault because we don’t bother to try and understand what their vision is.
Now, the argument could be made that men don’t make much of an effort to understand our vision of normal either. And while that is certainly true, it’s not relevant to the discussion. What is relevant is that ONE of us has to make the effort and, if you’re not getting what you want from your relationship with men, then it might as well be you who tries to bridge the language barrier.
And that leads me to my final point for today. I know exactly how to communicate with a man’s “other” brain. I know exactly how to get men to do what I want them to do. I know exactly what they are thinking, and I know how to attract a man and how to keep him from rejecting me. I wasn’t born knowing all of this, and I certainly can’t read Norwegian. But I can read English and, if you can as well, then you really should get your hands on a copy of How to Be Irresistible to Men by Sarah Paul. This is one smart lady when it comes to translating men-speak and her book addresses everything you need to know about how to move from sex symbol to love object and gain a man’s respect along the way. It’s guaranteed to make your “Ah ha!” light come on. Check it out and see what you’ve been missing.
About the author:
Caterina is a published author and founder of stillagirl.com a positive place for women and girls.
If you know how to read Norwegian, then you know that the title of this article is:
“Men are not a mystery when you know how to read them!”
But if you don’t read Norwegian then you were left in the dark. My point? Most women have no idea how to read men. Sure, we may think that we know what they’re thinking; we may think that we know what they want, but the truth is: Most of us would have better luck translating Norwegian than we would understanding what’s really going on in the average man’s head.
Here’s a quick quiz for you. Let’s see how you do:
1. I try to be nice to men and they reject me (T/F).
2. I want men to please me but they rarely do (T/F)
3. I have no idea what triggers a man to reject a woman (T/F)
4. I end up turning off men who seem interested in me (T/F)
I said it was a quick quiz, so I won’t bother listing the hundreds of other “male mysteries” that we are confronted with every day. It’s enough to simply say: “What in the hell do they really want and how do I show them that I have it?”
Look, get your mind out of the bedroom for a minute. We all know that men have two entirely different brains and that one of those brains has only one goal in life. If that’s your only goal as well, then you don’t need to understand how men think. All you have to do is waive your booty around and guys will snap you up at night and spit you out in the morning.
But if you are truly interested in finding someone that you can have a committed relationship with (whatever that means to you), then you’re going have to start figuring out how that other brain works. I’m talking about the brain that’s more complex; the one with multiple needs, feelings, and ego. Unfortunately, when you start trying to get some attention from that brain, everything turns Norwegian on you.
It may be fun and easy to blame the language barrier on the guys, but this failure to communicate is not their fault. Now some of you are going to hate me for saying this, but the truth is – the fault is ours.
Let me tell you a short story that will illustrate what I mean. A few years ago I went to Toronto for business. I walked into a convenience store to buy some mints and a bottle of water. The clerk rang up the order and gave me the price in Canadian dollars. I asked her how much that was in American dollars. She replied “I don’t know, we don’t accept American dollars.” I was shocked! “You don’t accept American dollars?” She replied “If I came into your store in America and tried to pay with Canadian dollars, would you take them?” I saw her point immediately. I was expecting her version of “normal” to match my version of normal. It didn’t match and I left the store without my mints and water.
Well friends, we women make the very same error every time we try to communicate with men. Our vision of “normal” doesn’t match theirs. Is that their fault? No. It’s our fault because we don’t bother to try and understand what their vision is.
Now, the argument could be made that men don’t make much of an effort to understand our vision of normal either. And while that is certainly true, it’s not relevant to the discussion. What is relevant is that ONE of us has to make the effort and, if you’re not getting what you want from your relationship with men, then it might as well be you who tries to bridge the language barrier.
And that leads me to my final point for today. I know exactly how to communicate with a man’s “other” brain. I know exactly how to get men to do what I want them to do. I know exactly what they are thinking, and I know how to attract a man and how to keep him from rejecting me. I wasn’t born knowing all of this, and I certainly can’t read Norwegian. But I can read English and, if you can as well, then you really should get your hands on a copy of How to Be Irresistible to Men by Sarah Paul. This is one smart lady when it comes to translating men-speak and her book addresses everything you need to know about how to move from sex symbol to love object and gain a man’s respect along the way. It’s guaranteed to make your “Ah ha!” light come on. Check it out and see what you’ve been missing.
About the author:
Caterina is a published author and founder of stillagirl.com a positive place for women and girls.
How do I get him or her to talk to me?!!!!
This is a common concern in our society for single people of any age; how to make contact with someone that we like on a soft matter without being forward. The truth of the matter is that we have the opportunity to meet that special person everyday; at the bus station, at the grocery store, at church, at a class, at the gym, at the coffee shop, at the library.
1. Eye contact
There has to be a little game of eye contact. He looks at you. You look at him. You look away. You look again. He looks at you again. You smile. He smiles back. And so on...
And Men, you keep your eyes on her until she looks back.... and maybe, smiles. Then, approach her and introduce conversation. The easiest way is to say :" Hi! My name is _______. What is yours?" And say something nice about her. Something about her hair, something about the color that she is wearing, or the make up. Whatever you find nice and feminine about her appearance.
Later on, VERY IMPORTANT, say something nice about HER personality. Not on a physical level, but on a mental level. Is she intelligent? Did you notice that she is sweet? Did you notice that she how strong her values are? Do like that? Well then, go ahead and say it. The impact is worth the effort
2. Smile. It's the simplest way to have eye contact softly.
Not many people do this and this transforms that way we are perceived. I saw once on TV. a report on some kind of monkey in the African jungle; two males were fighting to get a female and to stop the fight, one had to show his teeth to the other one. For us human, smiling can have an emotional impact that could lead to dramatic effects on our lives.
Exercise: Smile to at least 5 strangers everyday, even if the person is not attractive to you. Be careful not to look as if you were "simple of mind". Just like a glance, a brief smile by looking in the eye and let go.
Try to get the habit, you will be surprise of the impact that you will have on other. Smiling is inviting and soon enough, it will become a reflex that could let you go far. I know one co-worker got a promotion because the upper management tought he was a candidate with the skills to do the job but also because he seemed like someone with whom it is easy to get along with.
3. Introduce conversation. The easiest way to introduce a conversation is to ask a question. Then, follow it with a short amusing story about the situation. For example, if you are at the grocery store and you see that cute girl near the peas section, excuse yourself and ask her what she would recommend. After she has answered, follow by a joke you have seen on TV or something that happened to you about peas when you were younger. Laughing or make a person laugh is a quality that you have to develop.
One important thing; don't think of the rejection; it will paralyze you. If they decline, say to yourself that there must be a good reason - they are already in a relationship or not ready to get involved yet, etc..- Move on to the next one. Very important. Don't let one or two declines prevent you from meeting that special person. If you don't take charge of your love life, who will?
4. Then you can pass on to the next step: You give your phone number or ask for it. Simply.
That is the lowest pressure invitation because it leaves the decision to the other person to call you. Or not. That way, no one is getting hurt. You can meet tons of people that way and be a "hot commodity". The more you will have dates, chances are that you will feel better about yourself and you will become more attractive to the eyes of the others.
Say something like " You seem like a fun person and I would like to see you again for coffee. I don't have much time right now so I am leaving you my phone number and call me next week and we will arrange for meeting. It was nice meeting you"
You can invite that person early in the conversation and let that person decide if they will call you. No pressure for anyone. Imagine if you do that to 3 people per week, chances are that you will have a busy dating life. You will make all of your unhappy married friends envious.
Those are just basic instructions to meet people. However, be creative. Try new method. At worst, somebody will say "no". At best, you may meet the person of your dreams...
Isn't it worth the effort?
About the author:
Who is Caroline? She is a growing expert on love, relationship, romance because she is reading extensively on the subject. She is gladly sharing her knowledge and experience.
1. Eye contact
There has to be a little game of eye contact. He looks at you. You look at him. You look away. You look again. He looks at you again. You smile. He smiles back. And so on...
And Men, you keep your eyes on her until she looks back.... and maybe, smiles. Then, approach her and introduce conversation. The easiest way is to say :" Hi! My name is _______. What is yours?" And say something nice about her. Something about her hair, something about the color that she is wearing, or the make up. Whatever you find nice and feminine about her appearance.
Later on, VERY IMPORTANT, say something nice about HER personality. Not on a physical level, but on a mental level. Is she intelligent? Did you notice that she is sweet? Did you notice that she how strong her values are? Do like that? Well then, go ahead and say it. The impact is worth the effort
2. Smile. It's the simplest way to have eye contact softly.
Not many people do this and this transforms that way we are perceived. I saw once on TV. a report on some kind of monkey in the African jungle; two males were fighting to get a female and to stop the fight, one had to show his teeth to the other one. For us human, smiling can have an emotional impact that could lead to dramatic effects on our lives.
Exercise: Smile to at least 5 strangers everyday, even if the person is not attractive to you. Be careful not to look as if you were "simple of mind". Just like a glance, a brief smile by looking in the eye and let go.
Try to get the habit, you will be surprise of the impact that you will have on other. Smiling is inviting and soon enough, it will become a reflex that could let you go far. I know one co-worker got a promotion because the upper management tought he was a candidate with the skills to do the job but also because he seemed like someone with whom it is easy to get along with.
3. Introduce conversation. The easiest way to introduce a conversation is to ask a question. Then, follow it with a short amusing story about the situation. For example, if you are at the grocery store and you see that cute girl near the peas section, excuse yourself and ask her what she would recommend. After she has answered, follow by a joke you have seen on TV or something that happened to you about peas when you were younger. Laughing or make a person laugh is a quality that you have to develop.
One important thing; don't think of the rejection; it will paralyze you. If they decline, say to yourself that there must be a good reason - they are already in a relationship or not ready to get involved yet, etc..- Move on to the next one. Very important. Don't let one or two declines prevent you from meeting that special person. If you don't take charge of your love life, who will?
4. Then you can pass on to the next step: You give your phone number or ask for it. Simply.
That is the lowest pressure invitation because it leaves the decision to the other person to call you. Or not. That way, no one is getting hurt. You can meet tons of people that way and be a "hot commodity". The more you will have dates, chances are that you will feel better about yourself and you will become more attractive to the eyes of the others.
Say something like " You seem like a fun person and I would like to see you again for coffee. I don't have much time right now so I am leaving you my phone number and call me next week and we will arrange for meeting. It was nice meeting you"
You can invite that person early in the conversation and let that person decide if they will call you. No pressure for anyone. Imagine if you do that to 3 people per week, chances are that you will have a busy dating life. You will make all of your unhappy married friends envious.
Those are just basic instructions to meet people. However, be creative. Try new method. At worst, somebody will say "no". At best, you may meet the person of your dreams...
Isn't it worth the effort?
About the author:
Who is Caroline? She is a growing expert on love, relationship, romance because she is reading extensively on the subject. She is gladly sharing her knowledge and experience.
How to Program Your Man
Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could program your man as easily as
purchasing your next flick on pay per view?
Well it isn't as absurd as it sounds. Every day we program each
other subconsciously.
There are reasons why we like certain people and dislike others.
Many time this has nothing to do with logic and everything to do
with anchors.
Anchors create automatic responses. For example, many people smell
chocolate chip cookies or warm apple pie and think of warm happy
afternoons spent in their mother's kitchen. Just the scent creates
good feelings.
Another example on the flip side may be the sound of sirens. Many
of us get nervous at just hearing them in the vicinity when we are
driving, and begin nervously looking for police officers ready to
bust us for speeding.
We all have anchors. The good news is that while most people live
their life on autopilot, you can learn how to create anchors in
yourself and in the men that you want to date.
Here is one quick example: The next time that you are out on
a date or approached by a man that you find attractive:
1) smile at him and crack a joke
2) As soon as he starts smiling and laughing reach over and squeeze
his arm lightly.
That simple touch combined by the good feelings your joke inspired
has just become his anchor.
3) Now whenever you see him and want to inspire that same feeling
lightly squeeze his arm in the same place. He will automatically
feel good about you again.
Try it for yourself!
About the author:
Caterina Christakos is a published author and dating coach.For even more seduction tips click below to find the seduction
strategies that Cosmopolitan Magazine gave a big thumbs up!
purchasing your next flick on pay per view?
Well it isn't as absurd as it sounds. Every day we program each
other subconsciously.
There are reasons why we like certain people and dislike others.
Many time this has nothing to do with logic and everything to do
with anchors.
Anchors create automatic responses. For example, many people smell
chocolate chip cookies or warm apple pie and think of warm happy
afternoons spent in their mother's kitchen. Just the scent creates
good feelings.
Another example on the flip side may be the sound of sirens. Many
of us get nervous at just hearing them in the vicinity when we are
driving, and begin nervously looking for police officers ready to
bust us for speeding.
We all have anchors. The good news is that while most people live
their life on autopilot, you can learn how to create anchors in
yourself and in the men that you want to date.
Here is one quick example: The next time that you are out on
a date or approached by a man that you find attractive:
1) smile at him and crack a joke
2) As soon as he starts smiling and laughing reach over and squeeze
his arm lightly.
That simple touch combined by the good feelings your joke inspired
has just become his anchor.
3) Now whenever you see him and want to inspire that same feeling
lightly squeeze his arm in the same place. He will automatically
feel good about you again.
Try it for yourself!
About the author:
Caterina Christakos is a published author and dating coach.For even more seduction tips click below to find the seduction
strategies that Cosmopolitan Magazine gave a big thumbs up!
Online Dating made Easy & Safe
As technology becomes more ingrained in our everyday lives, more people are turning to the Internet for social purposes. And over the past few years, this has become a more accepted form of communication. Friendships are formed and relationships made online.
But just how much trouble is it to join the online dating sites? And is it safe?
A few years ago, there was significant attention placed on those who turned to online dating. Consumers were warned that the sites were unsafe, used by predators who were looking for victims. But increased attention to security and awareness on the part of those using the services has made an incredible difference.
Many of the dating sites are now offering members ways to talk anonymously at first, then allowed to meet via web cam in private chat rooms. With the web cam options, it's more difficult to hide things like age.
Some sites also screen members personally. While the sites make no claims that they've gone so far as to perform background checks, they do often verify addresses and other information. Again, this isn't a full-fledged safety net, just one more precaution toward making online dating safer.
As more people are becoming completely comfortable with online communication and more people have access to Internet at home and at work, online dating sites have flourished. There are many sites that have very short sign-up processes and others that require you to answer lots of questions.
You'll typically be allowed to register for free, though you have to pay dues in order to gain access to other members' contact information. This is how the sites are able to boast that they have thousands of profiles available. Since it's free to sign up and post your information and photo, many people take that step with no intentions of going further.
If you're considering joining an online dating service, check out the membership requirements first. If security is important, take time to read what steps the dating service has taken to ensure the safety of its members.
Above all, take time to protect yourself. Remember that not everyone is honest. Just as you could meet a person on a park bench that offers lies about his or her life, you'll meet some people at online dating sites that are also untruthful. But you may also meet the love you've been looking for.
About the author:
Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website providing information on Dating
But just how much trouble is it to join the online dating sites? And is it safe?
A few years ago, there was significant attention placed on those who turned to online dating. Consumers were warned that the sites were unsafe, used by predators who were looking for victims. But increased attention to security and awareness on the part of those using the services has made an incredible difference.
Many of the dating sites are now offering members ways to talk anonymously at first, then allowed to meet via web cam in private chat rooms. With the web cam options, it's more difficult to hide things like age.
Some sites also screen members personally. While the sites make no claims that they've gone so far as to perform background checks, they do often verify addresses and other information. Again, this isn't a full-fledged safety net, just one more precaution toward making online dating safer.
As more people are becoming completely comfortable with online communication and more people have access to Internet at home and at work, online dating sites have flourished. There are many sites that have very short sign-up processes and others that require you to answer lots of questions.
You'll typically be allowed to register for free, though you have to pay dues in order to gain access to other members' contact information. This is how the sites are able to boast that they have thousands of profiles available. Since it's free to sign up and post your information and photo, many people take that step with no intentions of going further.
If you're considering joining an online dating service, check out the membership requirements first. If security is important, take time to read what steps the dating service has taken to ensure the safety of its members.
Above all, take time to protect yourself. Remember that not everyone is honest. Just as you could meet a person on a park bench that offers lies about his or her life, you'll meet some people at online dating sites that are also untruthful. But you may also meet the love you've been looking for.
About the author:
Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website providing information on Dating
Thursday, September 27, 2007
The breakdown of relationships and why they fail
All females need sexual tension from a prospective or existing partner to consider having or continuing to have, a physical relationship with them. Lose this from the start and you will become mayor of the friend zone.
Definition of sexual tension - Cocky and funny. A loud mouth, walking the thin line of winding her up without overly offending her. Posing as a challenge and not doing everything she says without a bit of give and take.
No sexual tension = a dead relationship.
There are 4 general types of relationship.
THE FRIEND ZONE RELATIONSHIP
Familiarity without sexual tension. (Usually the male not opening his mouth to challenge a girl he REALLY fancies.) This leads to complacency in that the female becomes numb to the presence of the male (because he doesn't stimulate her emotionally through lack of communication) and associates him as a social partner only. This leads to, the friend zone. The male is permanently seen as a non sexual friend only. Once a female has made up her mind that you are a friend and she says the F word. It is the kiss of death for any attraction you have for her. You will never have a physical relationship with her from this point onward and will spend the rest of your time with her, hearing how she got off with this great guy at the weekend. All the while you're dying inside. When you eventually tell her how you truly feel and she rejects you. She will sit and wonder why you are not answering the phone any more as you were a great listener to her problems.
PURLEY PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
Purely physical attraction. After a while a lack of sexual variety leads to complacency in both parties. Boredom / lack of sexual tension makes both parties become fed up with each other quickly. This leads to a breakup of the relationship and both parties go their separate ways. This type of relationship can be prolonged if both parties are willing to explore their sexual fantasies and keep variety in the bedroom. The long term feasibility of such a relationship is still in question.
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION & SEXUAL TENSION
Physical attraction + sexual tension equals love at first site. Female tries to change male to her ideal image of a man. The male resists, lack of conformity equals continued sexual tension which equals a long lasting relationship viewed as love in a love hate relationship.
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION & SEXUAL TENSION VERSION 2
Physical attraction + sexual tension equals love at first site. Female tries to change male to her ideal image of a man. The male conforms and no longer poses a challenge. Female gets bored as there's no sexual tension any more. Relationship starts to slip. Male thinks everything is ok as he is doing everything she wants but in reality, she has lost all interest in him. It is at this point that she will either stay with him in a purely partnership arrangement or leave him as soon as a better male comes along that stimulates her emotionally.
THE OVER POSSESSIVE PARTNER
The above scenarios do not take into account over possessive partners that bully or smother their partners to the point that they leave or attack them. This is known in some circles as 'a bunny boiler'. So named after the film fatal attraction where an obsessed Glenn Close cooks the family's pet rabbit in a revenge attack for Michael Douglas spurning her advances after a brief sexual relationship.
Usually over possessiveness stems from the insecurities or lack of trust in one partner. (They may have been hurt in the past and are determined to not let it happen again, to the point where it becomes an obsession.) Or they're a total psycho, run for it!
Relationship number 4 is the most common. In general you will see it while at the shopping center. The husband pushes the trolley and every time the wife speaks, it's either yes dear or no dear. The husband has conformed to do what the female requires in order to have a quiet life. The female thinks she is superior, in control and has mastered the art of man handling.
In reality she is destroying the mans animal attraction to her. She is slowly numbing him into an affair with someone else. Little does she know it but as he no longer poses a challenge to her, she is slowly becoming numb to him. As his animal instinct is tamed and he finds her attractive less and less, they will suddenly, one day, find themselves in a loveless marriage.
They will at this point be co-existing in a purely partnership based relationship for the sake of survival or because of children. This has lead to relationships breaking up after 30 years of marriage and both partners wonder why their marriage is so lifeless.
It has been described as 'the spark fizzling out'. In reality it is the lack of sexual tension or sexual variety. Remember, a female thinks with her emotions and a man thinks with his…..err….physical attraction mechanism.
If a male no longer stimulates her emotionally, she will seek it elsewhere. Equally if a female is no longer sexually attractive to a man, he too will look elsewhere.
Don't get me wrong ladies, some things can't be reversed, like aging and the passage of time, but there are ways to grow old and still be sexy to a male partner. A boring sex life is a recipe for disaster and being sexy is more than a lack of wrinkles. If in doubt, it's time to start experimenting in the bedroom to see what pushes his and your buttons. Explore each others sexual fantasies and do things you only dream about at night while your partner is asleep. You'll be surprised how quickly your relationship bounces back as a result.
If you have any sense you will heed my warning weather you are male or female, married or just starting a relationship. Try to keep the sexual tension alive between the two of you. If not, you will be on the next train to dumpsville wondering why he or she slept with someone else.
About the author:
Jack Crow is a freelance writer and part time webmaster. When he's not building web sites he's checking out new dating sites that appear on the net.
To see what he thinks of them visit:
http://www.sexy-american-singles.com
Definition of sexual tension - Cocky and funny. A loud mouth, walking the thin line of winding her up without overly offending her. Posing as a challenge and not doing everything she says without a bit of give and take.
No sexual tension = a dead relationship.
There are 4 general types of relationship.
THE FRIEND ZONE RELATIONSHIP
Familiarity without sexual tension. (Usually the male not opening his mouth to challenge a girl he REALLY fancies.) This leads to complacency in that the female becomes numb to the presence of the male (because he doesn't stimulate her emotionally through lack of communication) and associates him as a social partner only. This leads to, the friend zone. The male is permanently seen as a non sexual friend only. Once a female has made up her mind that you are a friend and she says the F word. It is the kiss of death for any attraction you have for her. You will never have a physical relationship with her from this point onward and will spend the rest of your time with her, hearing how she got off with this great guy at the weekend. All the while you're dying inside. When you eventually tell her how you truly feel and she rejects you. She will sit and wonder why you are not answering the phone any more as you were a great listener to her problems.
PURLEY PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
Purely physical attraction. After a while a lack of sexual variety leads to complacency in both parties. Boredom / lack of sexual tension makes both parties become fed up with each other quickly. This leads to a breakup of the relationship and both parties go their separate ways. This type of relationship can be prolonged if both parties are willing to explore their sexual fantasies and keep variety in the bedroom. The long term feasibility of such a relationship is still in question.
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION & SEXUAL TENSION
Physical attraction + sexual tension equals love at first site. Female tries to change male to her ideal image of a man. The male resists, lack of conformity equals continued sexual tension which equals a long lasting relationship viewed as love in a love hate relationship.
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION & SEXUAL TENSION VERSION 2
Physical attraction + sexual tension equals love at first site. Female tries to change male to her ideal image of a man. The male conforms and no longer poses a challenge. Female gets bored as there's no sexual tension any more. Relationship starts to slip. Male thinks everything is ok as he is doing everything she wants but in reality, she has lost all interest in him. It is at this point that she will either stay with him in a purely partnership arrangement or leave him as soon as a better male comes along that stimulates her emotionally.
THE OVER POSSESSIVE PARTNER
The above scenarios do not take into account over possessive partners that bully or smother their partners to the point that they leave or attack them. This is known in some circles as 'a bunny boiler'. So named after the film fatal attraction where an obsessed Glenn Close cooks the family's pet rabbit in a revenge attack for Michael Douglas spurning her advances after a brief sexual relationship.
Usually over possessiveness stems from the insecurities or lack of trust in one partner. (They may have been hurt in the past and are determined to not let it happen again, to the point where it becomes an obsession.) Or they're a total psycho, run for it!
Relationship number 4 is the most common. In general you will see it while at the shopping center. The husband pushes the trolley and every time the wife speaks, it's either yes dear or no dear. The husband has conformed to do what the female requires in order to have a quiet life. The female thinks she is superior, in control and has mastered the art of man handling.
In reality she is destroying the mans animal attraction to her. She is slowly numbing him into an affair with someone else. Little does she know it but as he no longer poses a challenge to her, she is slowly becoming numb to him. As his animal instinct is tamed and he finds her attractive less and less, they will suddenly, one day, find themselves in a loveless marriage.
They will at this point be co-existing in a purely partnership based relationship for the sake of survival or because of children. This has lead to relationships breaking up after 30 years of marriage and both partners wonder why their marriage is so lifeless.
It has been described as 'the spark fizzling out'. In reality it is the lack of sexual tension or sexual variety. Remember, a female thinks with her emotions and a man thinks with his…..err….physical attraction mechanism.
If a male no longer stimulates her emotionally, she will seek it elsewhere. Equally if a female is no longer sexually attractive to a man, he too will look elsewhere.
Don't get me wrong ladies, some things can't be reversed, like aging and the passage of time, but there are ways to grow old and still be sexy to a male partner. A boring sex life is a recipe for disaster and being sexy is more than a lack of wrinkles. If in doubt, it's time to start experimenting in the bedroom to see what pushes his and your buttons. Explore each others sexual fantasies and do things you only dream about at night while your partner is asleep. You'll be surprised how quickly your relationship bounces back as a result.
If you have any sense you will heed my warning weather you are male or female, married or just starting a relationship. Try to keep the sexual tension alive between the two of you. If not, you will be on the next train to dumpsville wondering why he or she slept with someone else.
About the author:
Jack Crow is a freelance writer and part time webmaster. When he's not building web sites he's checking out new dating sites that appear on the net.
To see what he thinks of them visit:
http://www.sexy-american-singles.com
Latin Dating - Beauty and Romance
Like any other society, Latin culture is one that is embedded with traditions, values and celebrations. Of all the different attributes that are associated with Latino's, there is no question that passion and romance are considered to be two of the most intriguing.
If you are of Latin descent and are interested in seeking a relationship with another Latin man or woman, there are many ways you can go about creating the perfect romantic dating experience, that both you and your date should be able to enjoy with no strings attached.
The following are a few ideas of how you can create romance on your dates:
Dinner - Dinner is always a perfect dating choice, because you can make it as casual or romantic as you would like it to be. It all depends on where you go, and the way you act during the meal. If you are interested in being romantic at dinner, listen intently to what your date has to say, take his or her hand from across the table, look them in the eyes and be honest when you express yourself. However, you should keep in mind that romance can be interpreted as an invitation to sex, or even make the other person feel uncomfortable if they are interested in taking it slow. Therefore, be a tasteful romantic and know when to draw the line. For although you want to capture your date's interest, you don't want to make them feel uncomfortable in the process.
Dancing - Dancing is a great way for you to have fun, while still getting to know and remaining close to your date. Going to a club, or attending Latin dancing is how you can keep the romance freely escalating without having any further expectations hanging in the air.
Walking - You would be surprised to discover the power behind a nice leisurely walk. There is something truly magical about making nature apart of your date. Although not everyone is fortunate enough to have a beach close to them, there is sure to be parks, waterfronts and old fashioned neighbourhoods awaiting your footsteps. Holding hands and talking on an evening stroll, watching the sunset in silence, and gazing up at the stars, are just some of the ways you can use simple beauty to add to the romantic atmosphere of your date.
Due to the fact that traditions are an important part of Latin culture, dating someone of your same ethnic background is usually a plus when it comes to family relations, especially if you are interested in perusing a serious relationship with your dating partner.
Nevertheless, despite your dating intentions, there are many ways you can make your dating experience a beautiful time that you can truly enjoy who knows where a little romance can take you.
About the author:
Frank Duru is the author of many different articles. His
works concentrate much on dating related information, such as
"African Dating - Pride and Ambition", “Religious Dating - Traditions and Values” The list goes on! Click here to visit his site loveempire.net.
Find more interracial and Dating related articles there.
If you are of Latin descent and are interested in seeking a relationship with another Latin man or woman, there are many ways you can go about creating the perfect romantic dating experience, that both you and your date should be able to enjoy with no strings attached.
The following are a few ideas of how you can create romance on your dates:
Dinner - Dinner is always a perfect dating choice, because you can make it as casual or romantic as you would like it to be. It all depends on where you go, and the way you act during the meal. If you are interested in being romantic at dinner, listen intently to what your date has to say, take his or her hand from across the table, look them in the eyes and be honest when you express yourself. However, you should keep in mind that romance can be interpreted as an invitation to sex, or even make the other person feel uncomfortable if they are interested in taking it slow. Therefore, be a tasteful romantic and know when to draw the line. For although you want to capture your date's interest, you don't want to make them feel uncomfortable in the process.
Dancing - Dancing is a great way for you to have fun, while still getting to know and remaining close to your date. Going to a club, or attending Latin dancing is how you can keep the romance freely escalating without having any further expectations hanging in the air.
Walking - You would be surprised to discover the power behind a nice leisurely walk. There is something truly magical about making nature apart of your date. Although not everyone is fortunate enough to have a beach close to them, there is sure to be parks, waterfronts and old fashioned neighbourhoods awaiting your footsteps. Holding hands and talking on an evening stroll, watching the sunset in silence, and gazing up at the stars, are just some of the ways you can use simple beauty to add to the romantic atmosphere of your date.
Due to the fact that traditions are an important part of Latin culture, dating someone of your same ethnic background is usually a plus when it comes to family relations, especially if you are interested in perusing a serious relationship with your dating partner.
Nevertheless, despite your dating intentions, there are many ways you can make your dating experience a beautiful time that you can truly enjoy who knows where a little romance can take you.
About the author:
Frank Duru is the author of many different articles. His
works concentrate much on dating related information, such as
"African Dating - Pride and Ambition", “Religious Dating - Traditions and Values” The list goes on! Click here to visit his site loveempire.net.
Find more interracial and Dating related articles there.
A cigar box purse or handbag is a unique fashion accessory with a touch of old world charm.
There’s an unmistakable charm about a cigar box purse or handbag. Neat, petite and elegant, and decorated with romantic, quaint and quirky images from a bygone era, these design gems are becoming increasingly sought after fashion accessories. You can buy cigar box purses and handbags made from real cigar boxes, or they can be decorated with just about any image you can imagine, including classic movie stars, fashion photographs, dancers, animals, flowers or abstract designs. If you shop around online, you’ll find a huge range of cigar box purses and handbags, many of them uniquely designed and sold by the artist who created them. You can even have a cigar box purse or handbag custom made using a favorite image of a pet, a special place, person or thing, or perhaps a cherished old photograph of a great aunt or grandmother taken in a bygone era. Any image is suitable, so long as it’s your own, and there is no copyright existing in the photograph or artwork. Or if you’re particularly creative, you could even make the purse or handbag yourself.
Making your own cigar box purse or handbag.
It’s very simple to make a cigar box purse or handbag yourself, and you’ll have the satisfaction of having something which is absolutely unique. A handbag or purse you’ve made yourself also makes a lovely gift for someone special. You can buy a simple wooden box, or a real cigar box if you can find one, some paint and lacquer, and the hinges, corners, handle and clasp from purse hardware suppliers which you’ll find online. Of course, you’ll also need a photograph or piece of artwork to use on the box. Choosing an image, a color scheme and purse hardware pieces which work together artistically is great fun, and very satisfying when it all comes together. It’s a very simple job to paint the box, glue on the image, cover the whole thing with a few coats of lacquer, then attach all of the purse hardware components.
About the author:
Lynn Donn is the webmaster for http://www.unique-handbags-and-purses.comHer website offers tips and information on all the latest trends in purses and handbags for the fashion enthusiast.
Making your own cigar box purse or handbag.
It’s very simple to make a cigar box purse or handbag yourself, and you’ll have the satisfaction of having something which is absolutely unique. A handbag or purse you’ve made yourself also makes a lovely gift for someone special. You can buy a simple wooden box, or a real cigar box if you can find one, some paint and lacquer, and the hinges, corners, handle and clasp from purse hardware suppliers which you’ll find online. Of course, you’ll also need a photograph or piece of artwork to use on the box. Choosing an image, a color scheme and purse hardware pieces which work together artistically is great fun, and very satisfying when it all comes together. It’s a very simple job to paint the box, glue on the image, cover the whole thing with a few coats of lacquer, then attach all of the purse hardware components.
About the author:
Lynn Donn is the webmaster for http://www.unique-handbags-and-purses.comHer website offers tips and information on all the latest trends in purses and handbags for the fashion enthusiast.
A Beauty Salon will help you look your best!
A beauty salon will help you look your very best with a price that will fit in almost any budget. A beauty salon will be able to make your hair, skin, toes, and fingernails look marvelous. In addition, most beauty salons offer their services for a fairly reasonable price. However, sometimes it may be difficult to choose what service you want. If that is the case, simply be on the lookout for any fashion style that you like. Look through magazines and cut out photos of styles and colors that you find pleasing. Take notes so that when you do go to a beauty salon, you will know exactly what you want. However, be aware that some beauty salons are better than others. To make sure that you are in high-quality beauty salon, check to see if it has clean beauty salon equipment and a clean work area. Also, be aware that in most states, beauty salons are required to publicly display their establishment license. If the salon or barbershop won’t show you an establishment license, you don’t know whether the shop’s health and safety procedures have been approved by the state.
Time saving Beauty Salon Tips
A beauty salon visit can be time consuming. To get the most from your visit and still have time left in your day, try these time-trimming tips. Before you leave your beauty salon, schedule your next appointment. Call ahead on your appointment day to see if your stylist is running on time. If not, you won’t have to waste time sitting at the beauty salon when you could be home. If you want to be quickly in and out for your beauty salon appointment, try to schedule the first appointment for the day.
About the author:
Mike Yeager
Publisher
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Time saving Beauty Salon Tips
A beauty salon visit can be time consuming. To get the most from your visit and still have time left in your day, try these time-trimming tips. Before you leave your beauty salon, schedule your next appointment. Call ahead on your appointment day to see if your stylist is running on time. If not, you won’t have to waste time sitting at the beauty salon when you could be home. If you want to be quickly in and out for your beauty salon appointment, try to schedule the first appointment for the day.
About the author:
Mike Yeager
Publisher
http://www.article-treasure.com/
Circulated by Article Emporium
Is it Lust or Love -- How to Tell the Difference
Far too many people, both men and women alike, confuse lust for love. Physical attraction alone will not withstand the test of time in relationships. Physical attraction is an important factor but must never be the only factor you rely upon when choosing a mate. Many make the mistake of confusing lust and love and end up broken-hearted when the relationship doesn't last.
Perhaps you're wildly attracted to someone and thoughts of that person dominate your mind a good portion of the day and night. Perhaps you can't wait until the next time the two of you will be together again. When you are together you can't keep your hands off one another and when you're apart, you fantasize about the next time you can see one another. True love and lust are easily confused because they are so much alike.
As a rule of thumb, if you share few other interests and have nothing in common other than an overwhelming physical desire for one another...it may be lust. If you have nothing of real value to say to one another and have difficulty relating to one another outside the sexual arena...it may be lust. If you don't particularly enjoy one another's company unless you're having sex...it may be lust.
On the other hand, if your relationship is based on factors other than physical attraction and sex is not necessarily the number one priority...it may be love. Most long-term relationships are built on a strong friendship which turns into love over time. Having sex is not the driving force behind the relationship, but is a nice sideline to it.
There really is such a thing as "love at first sight". It happens to many people and the relationship may last for the rest of their lives. A budding relationship based on lust feels much the same as one which is truly "love at first sight". So how do you tell the difference?
Ask yourself the following questions. Read each question carefully and really think about it before answering. When answering, try to be as truthful as possible. If you can honestly and sincerely answer "yes" to all or nearly all of the questions, it may be safe to assume what you feel for the other person is actually love and not merely lust.
Keep in mind, these questions are quite general and are in no way a total and complete checklist.
1. Do you share similar ethics, values, and morals?
2. Do you find it easy to talk to one another and can you talk freely about almost anything?
3. Do you enjoy the time you spend with one another, regardless of the activity?
4. Do you enjoy even the most mundane activities when you are together, simply because you ARE together?
5. Do you have a genuine concern for the happiness, safety, and well-being of the other person?
6. Are you able to work out any differences you may have with this person to the satisfaction of both of you?
7. When disagreements arise, are you able to discuss them openly and frankly without losing your temper?
8. Do you find yourself longing for this person's presence in your life in terms other than a sexual relationship? In other words, do you feel a need simply to be with that person and spend time with them even without having sex?
9. Can you laugh together and at one another, share jokes, and generally have fun together?
10. Does spending time with this person make you feel good about yourself?
11. Does this person give you a heightened sense of self-confidence and vitality?
12. Can you look at this person even when they are at their worst in their physical appearance (such as when they are sick) and not feel repulsed?
13. Do you share a strong mutual respect for one another?
14. Are you willing and able to share both good times and bad with this person and work through life's ups and downs together as a team?
There is a very fine line between lust and love because the two of them are closely related. Being able to tell the difference can save you from wasting your time pursuing an unhealthy relationship which is doomed to eventual failure.
If your long-term goal is to seek out a partner with whom you can build a solid, lifetime commitment, knowing the difference between lust and love is an essential and vital skill you'll want to master. Learning to accept a relationship for what it really is can mean the difference between a broken heart and a happy, fulfilling, lifetime of bliss with your partner.
Copyright 2005 Deborah Willis All Rights Reserved
About the author:
Deborah Willis is the author of ATTRACT WOMEN -- The Average Man's Guide to Attracting, Dating, Loving, and Maintaining Relationships with Women. For more down-to-earth dating advice visit ATTRACT WOMEN
This article may be freely reprinted as long as the article resource is left intact and there is a live link to the author's web site.
Perhaps you're wildly attracted to someone and thoughts of that person dominate your mind a good portion of the day and night. Perhaps you can't wait until the next time the two of you will be together again. When you are together you can't keep your hands off one another and when you're apart, you fantasize about the next time you can see one another. True love and lust are easily confused because they are so much alike.
As a rule of thumb, if you share few other interests and have nothing in common other than an overwhelming physical desire for one another...it may be lust. If you have nothing of real value to say to one another and have difficulty relating to one another outside the sexual arena...it may be lust. If you don't particularly enjoy one another's company unless you're having sex...it may be lust.
On the other hand, if your relationship is based on factors other than physical attraction and sex is not necessarily the number one priority...it may be love. Most long-term relationships are built on a strong friendship which turns into love over time. Having sex is not the driving force behind the relationship, but is a nice sideline to it.
There really is such a thing as "love at first sight". It happens to many people and the relationship may last for the rest of their lives. A budding relationship based on lust feels much the same as one which is truly "love at first sight". So how do you tell the difference?
Ask yourself the following questions. Read each question carefully and really think about it before answering. When answering, try to be as truthful as possible. If you can honestly and sincerely answer "yes" to all or nearly all of the questions, it may be safe to assume what you feel for the other person is actually love and not merely lust.
Keep in mind, these questions are quite general and are in no way a total and complete checklist.
1. Do you share similar ethics, values, and morals?
2. Do you find it easy to talk to one another and can you talk freely about almost anything?
3. Do you enjoy the time you spend with one another, regardless of the activity?
4. Do you enjoy even the most mundane activities when you are together, simply because you ARE together?
5. Do you have a genuine concern for the happiness, safety, and well-being of the other person?
6. Are you able to work out any differences you may have with this person to the satisfaction of both of you?
7. When disagreements arise, are you able to discuss them openly and frankly without losing your temper?
8. Do you find yourself longing for this person's presence in your life in terms other than a sexual relationship? In other words, do you feel a need simply to be with that person and spend time with them even without having sex?
9. Can you laugh together and at one another, share jokes, and generally have fun together?
10. Does spending time with this person make you feel good about yourself?
11. Does this person give you a heightened sense of self-confidence and vitality?
12. Can you look at this person even when they are at their worst in their physical appearance (such as when they are sick) and not feel repulsed?
13. Do you share a strong mutual respect for one another?
14. Are you willing and able to share both good times and bad with this person and work through life's ups and downs together as a team?
There is a very fine line between lust and love because the two of them are closely related. Being able to tell the difference can save you from wasting your time pursuing an unhealthy relationship which is doomed to eventual failure.
If your long-term goal is to seek out a partner with whom you can build a solid, lifetime commitment, knowing the difference between lust and love is an essential and vital skill you'll want to master. Learning to accept a relationship for what it really is can mean the difference between a broken heart and a happy, fulfilling, lifetime of bliss with your partner.
Copyright 2005 Deborah Willis All Rights Reserved
About the author:
Deborah Willis is the author of ATTRACT WOMEN -- The Average Man's Guide to Attracting, Dating, Loving, and Maintaining Relationships with Women. For more down-to-earth dating advice visit ATTRACT WOMEN
This article may be freely reprinted as long as the article resource is left intact and there is a live link to the author's web site.
How to Increase Being Asked Out by 80%
He'll Scratch Your Back If You Scratch His
There is a fundamental rule to any relationship that all good salespeople know.
If you can get a consumer to agree to a small purchase or even to accept something for free then they are much more likely to buy.
This is true in relationships, as well. If you can get a man to
accept a free drink, a free cup of coffee or even a free ticket to his favorite game, he is much more likely to agree to:
1) you joining him
2) a conversation
3) a possible date
There is this slight feeling of obligation plus he will think you
are really sweet for offering. Most men are used to doing the hard work of coming up with a witty line. If you make the asking out process easier they will be eternally grateful.
My first serious boyfriend saw that I had dropped some books on the way home from the bookstore. He offered to carry them home for me. This elevated him to hero status in my book and made it much harder to turn him down for a date.
Perhaps you could try this with a man in a bookstore who has
books and a cup of coffee to carry. Offer to help him bring his
things to the table. He just may let you join him.
About the author:
Caterina Christakos is a freelance writer and published author. Want even more dating advice? Go to http://www.seduction-hypnosis.com/relationship
There is a fundamental rule to any relationship that all good salespeople know.
If you can get a consumer to agree to a small purchase or even to accept something for free then they are much more likely to buy.
This is true in relationships, as well. If you can get a man to
accept a free drink, a free cup of coffee or even a free ticket to his favorite game, he is much more likely to agree to:
1) you joining him
2) a conversation
3) a possible date
There is this slight feeling of obligation plus he will think you
are really sweet for offering. Most men are used to doing the hard work of coming up with a witty line. If you make the asking out process easier they will be eternally grateful.
My first serious boyfriend saw that I had dropped some books on the way home from the bookstore. He offered to carry them home for me. This elevated him to hero status in my book and made it much harder to turn him down for a date.
Perhaps you could try this with a man in a bookstore who has
books and a cup of coffee to carry. Offer to help him bring his
things to the table. He just may let you join him.
About the author:
Caterina Christakos is a freelance writer and published author. Want even more dating advice? Go to http://www.seduction-hypnosis.com/relationship
Being Authentically You
I once read a fascinating, but all too realistic, story about a woman who opened her closet door and out tumbled various pieces of sporting equipment and memorabilia.
While these possessions represented the last decade of her life, she didn’t realize until putting them all away that she felt no connection to anything in her closet. You see, this poor woman had put aside her own interests for the hobbies of a long line of significant others. Standing before her newly straightened shelves, she recalled relationships with Partner A in the water skis, Partner B in the bicycle helmet, and Partner C with a paintball gun. She asked herself, “How could I have given up so much of myself so that nothing in my closet reflects my own interests?”
My simple answer is that she had a desire to fit in and be accepted. It’s a pretty safe bet that if a woman wants to become her partner’s ideal mate, she only needs to transform herself into that person. And it happens … again, and again, and again.
Still, we wonder, what does this cost her? And, is it fair to her significant other? Maybe, most importantly, we need to recognize that following this plan of action leads her to never finding a true ideal mate.
Like many of my coaching clients, I was raised with the unspoken messages of not asking for too much, and not being too vocal about my strengths. As a result, this upbringing and my need to be accepted after my divorce found me dating men who didn’t require much from their partner. At the same time, they didn’t offer much, either.
If you were looking for your ideal partner today, would you really be interested in someone whose only goal was to become your vision of a good mate? Would you want to spend time with someone who presented himself one way, but after the curtain was drawn, you saw something much different? Whether the person is a significant other or a female acquaintance, isn’t this image a little unsettling?
I don’t believe most women are trying to fool a mate with smoke and mirrors, but I do fear that many transform their lives to match their partner’s because they don’t yet know who they are, what their likes and dislikes are, or how to measure their goals and values.
A staggering number of women in my divorce workshops say, “I’ve given so much to my ex-husband and the family that I feel like I’m left with nothing. I couldn’t even tell you my favorite color, or what I want for dinner.” My heart immediately goes out to these women because years ago, their words were mine.
Sometimes help comes from the most unexpected places. A few weeks ago, while preparing for an appearance on an Orlando news program, I had to confront my comfortable pattern of downplaying my strengths. In the length of a short guest feature, I had to explain the ways I help women, and why I’m good at my work. This moment was significant for me, and one I will remember every time I find myself wanting to go back to that old habit of not being true to myself.
You can win in relationships and business by authentically knowing and being who you are, using the skills you bring to the table, and having a level of comfort that allows for flexibility and change.
Women shortchange themselves by jumping into relationships before taking the time to fully discover and appreciate themselves. They don’t stop to think about the characteristics they desire in a partner.
Are you looking for your ideal relationship?
Surprise—it all begins with being authentically you.
About the author:
Jennifer Snyder is the author of a self discovery workbook, The Time of Your Life: A Creative Sourcebook for Women. The Sourcebook can be ordered at http://www.timeofyourlifeafterdivorce.com
While these possessions represented the last decade of her life, she didn’t realize until putting them all away that she felt no connection to anything in her closet. You see, this poor woman had put aside her own interests for the hobbies of a long line of significant others. Standing before her newly straightened shelves, she recalled relationships with Partner A in the water skis, Partner B in the bicycle helmet, and Partner C with a paintball gun. She asked herself, “How could I have given up so much of myself so that nothing in my closet reflects my own interests?”
My simple answer is that she had a desire to fit in and be accepted. It’s a pretty safe bet that if a woman wants to become her partner’s ideal mate, she only needs to transform herself into that person. And it happens … again, and again, and again.
Still, we wonder, what does this cost her? And, is it fair to her significant other? Maybe, most importantly, we need to recognize that following this plan of action leads her to never finding a true ideal mate.
Like many of my coaching clients, I was raised with the unspoken messages of not asking for too much, and not being too vocal about my strengths. As a result, this upbringing and my need to be accepted after my divorce found me dating men who didn’t require much from their partner. At the same time, they didn’t offer much, either.
If you were looking for your ideal partner today, would you really be interested in someone whose only goal was to become your vision of a good mate? Would you want to spend time with someone who presented himself one way, but after the curtain was drawn, you saw something much different? Whether the person is a significant other or a female acquaintance, isn’t this image a little unsettling?
I don’t believe most women are trying to fool a mate with smoke and mirrors, but I do fear that many transform their lives to match their partner’s because they don’t yet know who they are, what their likes and dislikes are, or how to measure their goals and values.
A staggering number of women in my divorce workshops say, “I’ve given so much to my ex-husband and the family that I feel like I’m left with nothing. I couldn’t even tell you my favorite color, or what I want for dinner.” My heart immediately goes out to these women because years ago, their words were mine.
Sometimes help comes from the most unexpected places. A few weeks ago, while preparing for an appearance on an Orlando news program, I had to confront my comfortable pattern of downplaying my strengths. In the length of a short guest feature, I had to explain the ways I help women, and why I’m good at my work. This moment was significant for me, and one I will remember every time I find myself wanting to go back to that old habit of not being true to myself.
You can win in relationships and business by authentically knowing and being who you are, using the skills you bring to the table, and having a level of comfort that allows for flexibility and change.
Women shortchange themselves by jumping into relationships before taking the time to fully discover and appreciate themselves. They don’t stop to think about the characteristics they desire in a partner.
Are you looking for your ideal relationship?
Surprise—it all begins with being authentically you.
About the author:
Jennifer Snyder is the author of a self discovery workbook, The Time of Your Life: A Creative Sourcebook for Women. The Sourcebook can be ordered at http://www.timeofyourlifeafterdivorce.com
A guide to dating
People in long-term relationships, whether they are married or dating, often complain about getting into a rut. Your relationship may have started off with the great burst of passion and excitement but perhaps it began to wane because life is busy and work can where you out by the end of the day.
If you're in a dating relationship that seems to be in a rut, or wonder why you can't keep a long term relationship exciting anymore, perhaps you need to go back to the beginning. That doesn't mean you need to break up with your current partner and find someone new, it means you need to refresh the relationship with exciting and spontaneous activities.
When you look back on a period of your life, what is it that you remember? Is it the average day-in, day-out activities? Not likely. It is more likely those fun and spur-of-the-moment times when you did things that were hilarious or scary or new. That's what it means to go back to the beginning of a relationship, when everything you do is spontaneous and new.
Next time you and your girlfriend or boyfriend are deciding to do something on Friday, don't settle for dinner-and-a-movie. Do something different! Here are some ideas:
Play paintball
Rent a classic car
Go skydiving
Have a picnic
Or surprise your date with something spontaneous:
Start a water fight
Go for a romantic boat ride and tip the boat
Blindfold your date and take them somewhere they never been
Surprise your date at work just as they're finishing up for the day
Relationships fail for many reasons. One of the saddest reasons is that people simply drift apart because the other person doesn't excite them anymore. It doesn't have to be that you're your relationship, whether dating or married, can thrive when it is filled with adventures that the two of you share as you build memories together.
You'll look back on your time together with fondness as you consider the many fun and spontaneous things you did together. But doing those things is a choice. Choose to return to the beginning of your relationship and have fun again!
About the author:
Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website providing information on Dating
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If you're in a dating relationship that seems to be in a rut, or wonder why you can't keep a long term relationship exciting anymore, perhaps you need to go back to the beginning. That doesn't mean you need to break up with your current partner and find someone new, it means you need to refresh the relationship with exciting and spontaneous activities.
When you look back on a period of your life, what is it that you remember? Is it the average day-in, day-out activities? Not likely. It is more likely those fun and spur-of-the-moment times when you did things that were hilarious or scary or new. That's what it means to go back to the beginning of a relationship, when everything you do is spontaneous and new.
Next time you and your girlfriend or boyfriend are deciding to do something on Friday, don't settle for dinner-and-a-movie. Do something different! Here are some ideas:
Play paintball
Rent a classic car
Go skydiving
Have a picnic
Or surprise your date with something spontaneous:
Start a water fight
Go for a romantic boat ride and tip the boat
Blindfold your date and take them somewhere they never been
Surprise your date at work just as they're finishing up for the day
Relationships fail for many reasons. One of the saddest reasons is that people simply drift apart because the other person doesn't excite them anymore. It doesn't have to be that you're your relationship, whether dating or married, can thrive when it is filled with adventures that the two of you share as you build memories together.
You'll look back on your time together with fondness as you consider the many fun and spontaneous things you did together. But doing those things is a choice. Choose to return to the beginning of your relationship and have fun again!
About the author:
Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website providing information on Dating
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After the best advice relating to wedding vows.
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Any reputable site providing information about wedding vows, will almost certainly provide an 'about' webpage which will list the owner's details. The particulars should reveal a number of key indications about the website owner's expertise. This enables you to make an assessment about the webmaster's training and understanding, to advise people on the subject of wedding vows.
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Richard Jones is the webmaster for http://www.wedding-vows.info/
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Find wedding vows at one of the best sites the Internet has to offer!
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Any reputable site providing information about wedding vows, will almost certainly provide an 'about' webpage which will list the owner's details. The particulars should reveal a number of key indications about the website owner's expertise. This enables you to make an assessment about the webmaster's training and understanding, to advise people on the subject of wedding vows.
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Richard Jones is the webmaster for http://www.wedding-vows.info/
10 Reasons to Use Online Dating Sites
There are many more reasons than just ten that I would like to mention, but in this article I have focussed on the primary ten reasons why I believe on-line dating is here to stay. It is now understood that the industry has even further to grow as more and more service suppliers in this segment realize the many niches yet to be serviced and explored. If you are concerned about your time, privacy or safety, while using On-line Dating, then this is a 'must read'.
1.Most people are pretty busy these days. You can imagine how many times you would have to go out and socialize before finding the right partner. Then consider how much you end up spending week after week. You may meet the right person the first time you go out, but you and I know that this is highly unlikely. This procedure more often than not ends up in a lot of wasted time and a lot of wasted money too. However, dating sites(in general) cost nothing to register and or search.
2.Dating sites (the good ones) are in the main, free to join. Only costing you money when you have linked up with someone and intend on meeting with them or communicating further. This is a great feature because it means you will be aware of the basic geography, the hobbies, nuances, hobbies, and other interests before you meet. This is so much less time consuming than dating different people over and over before you find that 'right' person or even just the essential pieces of information.
3.From time to time you can also place advertisements on these sites which stimulates response and gives you a wider field to choose from.
4.You can remain anonymous (recommended) and protect your identity until you're ready and comfortable enough to disclose who you reallly are. If you decide the other person is not for you, you can easily and tactfully end communication without any animosity or even further contact.
5.Some people moving to a new location like to establish relationships and friend before they arrive at their new abode, allowing settling in to be that much easier. This is very often relevant to single parents. There are sites out there that are specific to single parents dating which make the job of meeting that much easier.
6.You may be having difficulty meeting people of the same faith or religion. In this case, there are niche dating sites that service this need in almost every major religion or faith.
7.Equally important is the need to service alternative dating requirements for those who seek pursuits outside the mainstream world of dating. There are many sites to choose from in this category to a point where choosing a good alternative dating service can become confusing and almost frustrating. Look for a Dating Site Review Service to assist you with this. Most of these service sites will have carried out some reviews in addition to weeding out the good from the not so good. If you don't find a particular site on a dating site review service it usually means the owners were uncomfortable with the site and will not include it in their pages or they haven't got around to reviewing it as yet - If the latter is the case, send them an email asking them to review that particular site. Most will follow through and you will find a review in as little as a few days in some cases. If it does not turn up on their pages, there could be something wrong with it.
8.Adult dating also falls into the above category due to its large following. Fortunately, the same solution applies. Just find a dating site review service that has done the 'hard yards' on your behalf and click away. The good review sites are free and will guide you to the better service suppliers.
9.On the subject of Dating Site Review Services, some of them supply newsletters which keep you informed and up to date on new services, promotions (ie.Romance Tours, Dating Events and Speed Dating etc.) and of course other exciting freebies. It is always worth subscribing because you can always unsubscribe if you want to. Just make sure they mention that in their 'sign up box'. Some independent sites have their own newsletters but common sense tells you that you are more likely to receive a more diverse range of information and promotions from the Dating Site Review Service than from just one independent dating site. This occurs because they will screen a whole swag of offers from a host of sites rather than just one before they onsend them to you.
10.Another cool free service from responsible dating sites and review services are the articles which frequently guide you in the right direction with dating trends and tips for successful dating and romance.
I hope this article has opened you eyes to just a few of the many benefits and features that can be obtained when using dating sites to help you.
Enjoy!
About the author:
Publisher & Author: Roy Barker. Roys expertise comes from a lengthy career in the counselling, human resources and corporate arena. Roy has a Dating Site Review Service at http://www.datingxlence.com
1.Most people are pretty busy these days. You can imagine how many times you would have to go out and socialize before finding the right partner. Then consider how much you end up spending week after week. You may meet the right person the first time you go out, but you and I know that this is highly unlikely. This procedure more often than not ends up in a lot of wasted time and a lot of wasted money too. However, dating sites(in general) cost nothing to register and or search.
2.Dating sites (the good ones) are in the main, free to join. Only costing you money when you have linked up with someone and intend on meeting with them or communicating further. This is a great feature because it means you will be aware of the basic geography, the hobbies, nuances, hobbies, and other interests before you meet. This is so much less time consuming than dating different people over and over before you find that 'right' person or even just the essential pieces of information.
3.From time to time you can also place advertisements on these sites which stimulates response and gives you a wider field to choose from.
4.You can remain anonymous (recommended) and protect your identity until you're ready and comfortable enough to disclose who you reallly are. If you decide the other person is not for you, you can easily and tactfully end communication without any animosity or even further contact.
5.Some people moving to a new location like to establish relationships and friend before they arrive at their new abode, allowing settling in to be that much easier. This is very often relevant to single parents. There are sites out there that are specific to single parents dating which make the job of meeting that much easier.
6.You may be having difficulty meeting people of the same faith or religion. In this case, there are niche dating sites that service this need in almost every major religion or faith.
7.Equally important is the need to service alternative dating requirements for those who seek pursuits outside the mainstream world of dating. There are many sites to choose from in this category to a point where choosing a good alternative dating service can become confusing and almost frustrating. Look for a Dating Site Review Service to assist you with this. Most of these service sites will have carried out some reviews in addition to weeding out the good from the not so good. If you don't find a particular site on a dating site review service it usually means the owners were uncomfortable with the site and will not include it in their pages or they haven't got around to reviewing it as yet - If the latter is the case, send them an email asking them to review that particular site. Most will follow through and you will find a review in as little as a few days in some cases. If it does not turn up on their pages, there could be something wrong with it.
8.Adult dating also falls into the above category due to its large following. Fortunately, the same solution applies. Just find a dating site review service that has done the 'hard yards' on your behalf and click away. The good review sites are free and will guide you to the better service suppliers.
9.On the subject of Dating Site Review Services, some of them supply newsletters which keep you informed and up to date on new services, promotions (ie.Romance Tours, Dating Events and Speed Dating etc.) and of course other exciting freebies. It is always worth subscribing because you can always unsubscribe if you want to. Just make sure they mention that in their 'sign up box'. Some independent sites have their own newsletters but common sense tells you that you are more likely to receive a more diverse range of information and promotions from the Dating Site Review Service than from just one independent dating site. This occurs because they will screen a whole swag of offers from a host of sites rather than just one before they onsend them to you.
10.Another cool free service from responsible dating sites and review services are the articles which frequently guide you in the right direction with dating trends and tips for successful dating and romance.
I hope this article has opened you eyes to just a few of the many benefits and features that can be obtained when using dating sites to help you.
Enjoy!
About the author:
Publisher & Author: Roy Barker. Roys expertise comes from a lengthy career in the counselling, human resources and corporate arena. Roy has a Dating Site Review Service at http://www.datingxlence.com
7 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistable
The key to being irresistable to men is more about you and less
about them.
It is about accentuating every one of your strengths both
internally and externally and reveling in them.
So before we show you how to flirt, tease and seduce, we are going to teach you how to pamper, indulge and revel in the delicious power of being a woman.
1) Before going out to socialize or even see the one that you are currently dating, take a few minutes to visualize what you want to happen. Picture in detail exactly who you want and what you want to happen between you. What qualities will your perfect lover have?
How will he look at you? How will he touch you? Add in as much
detail as possible. Knowing what you want is the first step to
having it.
2) Before seeing the man you are dating or stepping foot outside the door, take care with your appearance. Look in the mirror and identify all the things that you like about yourself. If you focus on the qualities that you like about yourself, you will have far more confidence in yourself than most women out there. That will show and give you an edge.
3) Accentuate those positive qualities.
For example: If you have full shiny hair make the most of it. Let
it flow down your shoulders. Play with it in front of the one you
desire. Men have a fascination with hair.
If you have full pouty lips, apply liner around the edges then fill
in with a deep gloss that accentuates your skin tone, then apply a lighter coat just in the center of your lips. This will give them
even more sex appeal.
4) Play up your eyes. A lot of flirting is done with eye play. Look
at him then look away. Use your eyes to tell him everything that
you are feeling, everything that you would like to do to him.
5)Wear clothes that accentuate your assets. Hint at your curves
without exposing them. Remember less is more. Incite his curiosity. Make him want to see more.
6) Wear a delicate scent. Apply your perfume twenty minutes before you go out the door. A woman's scent is enticing. Overpowering perfume, on the other hand, is a major turn off.
7) Take care of your whole body, not just your face. Most women wash their face daily and moisturize but what about the rest of you? Take care of your skin. Use a good sugar scrub on your body and follow with a rich moisturizer. If your body feels silky smooth, you will feel and act sexier. Plus the man of your dreams won't be able to resist caressing your smooth, silky soft skin.
About the author:
Caterina Christakos is a published author and dating coach. Learn even more about how to seduce a man . Sign up for your free seduction tips newsletter at
http://www.seduction-hypnosis.com
about them.
It is about accentuating every one of your strengths both
internally and externally and reveling in them.
So before we show you how to flirt, tease and seduce, we are going to teach you how to pamper, indulge and revel in the delicious power of being a woman.
1) Before going out to socialize or even see the one that you are currently dating, take a few minutes to visualize what you want to happen. Picture in detail exactly who you want and what you want to happen between you. What qualities will your perfect lover have?
How will he look at you? How will he touch you? Add in as much
detail as possible. Knowing what you want is the first step to
having it.
2) Before seeing the man you are dating or stepping foot outside the door, take care with your appearance. Look in the mirror and identify all the things that you like about yourself. If you focus on the qualities that you like about yourself, you will have far more confidence in yourself than most women out there. That will show and give you an edge.
3) Accentuate those positive qualities.
For example: If you have full shiny hair make the most of it. Let
it flow down your shoulders. Play with it in front of the one you
desire. Men have a fascination with hair.
If you have full pouty lips, apply liner around the edges then fill
in with a deep gloss that accentuates your skin tone, then apply a lighter coat just in the center of your lips. This will give them
even more sex appeal.
4) Play up your eyes. A lot of flirting is done with eye play. Look
at him then look away. Use your eyes to tell him everything that
you are feeling, everything that you would like to do to him.
5)Wear clothes that accentuate your assets. Hint at your curves
without exposing them. Remember less is more. Incite his curiosity. Make him want to see more.
6) Wear a delicate scent. Apply your perfume twenty minutes before you go out the door. A woman's scent is enticing. Overpowering perfume, on the other hand, is a major turn off.
7) Take care of your whole body, not just your face. Most women wash their face daily and moisturize but what about the rest of you? Take care of your skin. Use a good sugar scrub on your body and follow with a rich moisturizer. If your body feels silky smooth, you will feel and act sexier. Plus the man of your dreams won't be able to resist caressing your smooth, silky soft skin.
About the author:
Caterina Christakos is a published author and dating coach. Learn even more about how to seduce a man . Sign up for your free seduction tips newsletter at
http://www.seduction-hypnosis.com
7 Ways to Drive a Man Wild
It's unbelievable the amount of bad advice there is out there on how to seduce a man or if they give you advice they forget to tell you how to use it properly. So here are a couple of tips on what to do and what not to do to drive a man wild and an instruction manual.
1) Dress in a way that makes you feel sexy and also flatters your figure. Let's face it some of us look ridiculous in stilettos. Red is almost always a good color. Try a red slinky dress and comfortable undergarments. Those torture devices they sell to suck in our guts look great under the dress but are not sexy at all when you are trying to yank them off for a wild night of pleasure.
2) Pay attention to what he has to say for a change. Yes you can talk about yourself but a man finds it really refreshing when a woman allows him to have his own time in the spotlight.
3) Don't talk about your ex. If he asks, keep it short and sweet. You are starting fresh with this guy. No need to bring in the ghost of past relationships. You are perfect to him in the beginning. There is no reason to make him wonder if the last guy who dumped you was right.
4)Wear a light attractive scent. This means layering scents. Bathe in scented bath oils first. Then apply a light powder in the same scent. Finally spray the same scented perfume in front of you and walk into the mist. Do this about 45 minutes before you see him. If you overpower him with your scent, instead of wanting to edge a bit closer he will be running for the nearest exit.
5) If you bring him back to your place make sure it is dimly lit. Soft lighting minimizes lines and wrinkles and gives your skin a bit of a glow. Keep candles handy or lamps that have adjustable lighting. In soft lighting you can be his dream woman and you can feel a thousand times better about undressing in front of him.
6) Do a strip tease for him. Now I am not talking about a ten dollar hooker strip tease. I mean a slow undressing. Have him lie on the bed to watch, as you slowly slip out of your dress, then your undies and finally your stockings and shoes. Make him wait a bit.
7)Explore his body in detail. Consider it a five course meal. Drive him absolutely wild by discovering all the hidden spots he didn't even know existed. Most women just lie there and let the guy do all the work. Participate and you have just blown past most of the women he has had sex with.
About the author:
Caterina is a published writer and dating coach. Learn even more seduction tips now. Go to: http://www.howtoseduceanyman.com
1) Dress in a way that makes you feel sexy and also flatters your figure. Let's face it some of us look ridiculous in stilettos. Red is almost always a good color. Try a red slinky dress and comfortable undergarments. Those torture devices they sell to suck in our guts look great under the dress but are not sexy at all when you are trying to yank them off for a wild night of pleasure.
2) Pay attention to what he has to say for a change. Yes you can talk about yourself but a man finds it really refreshing when a woman allows him to have his own time in the spotlight.
3) Don't talk about your ex. If he asks, keep it short and sweet. You are starting fresh with this guy. No need to bring in the ghost of past relationships. You are perfect to him in the beginning. There is no reason to make him wonder if the last guy who dumped you was right.
4)Wear a light attractive scent. This means layering scents. Bathe in scented bath oils first. Then apply a light powder in the same scent. Finally spray the same scented perfume in front of you and walk into the mist. Do this about 45 minutes before you see him. If you overpower him with your scent, instead of wanting to edge a bit closer he will be running for the nearest exit.
5) If you bring him back to your place make sure it is dimly lit. Soft lighting minimizes lines and wrinkles and gives your skin a bit of a glow. Keep candles handy or lamps that have adjustable lighting. In soft lighting you can be his dream woman and you can feel a thousand times better about undressing in front of him.
6) Do a strip tease for him. Now I am not talking about a ten dollar hooker strip tease. I mean a slow undressing. Have him lie on the bed to watch, as you slowly slip out of your dress, then your undies and finally your stockings and shoes. Make him wait a bit.
7)Explore his body in detail. Consider it a five course meal. Drive him absolutely wild by discovering all the hidden spots he didn't even know existed. Most women just lie there and let the guy do all the work. Participate and you have just blown past most of the women he has had sex with.
About the author:
Caterina is a published writer and dating coach. Learn even more seduction tips now. Go to: http://www.howtoseduceanyman.com
Dating Advice: Love Shouldn't Hurt
"Because when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it's
very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced
without pain." -Gloria Steinem, "Revolution from Within."
If you tend to attract men who disappoint you (by cheating on you, not
showing up when they say they will, or just refusing to get off the
couch), you may be confusing love with pain.
So many of us have been brought up to believe that pain is normal, even
expected, in a love relationship. Without it, the relationship seems flat,
boring. We crave drama. (Why is it that so many women have great sex after
a fight with a significant other?)
A happy, loving relationship eludes us because we don't recognize it
when we see it, or because we simply believe it's not possible (News
Flash: According to a recent Today Show, all men lie. All of them! I
wasn't aware that men have a monopoly on lying or other bad behavior. I
know some women who are breathtaking liars. Don't you?).
According to the media, men are incapable of remembering birthdays,
being monogamous, getting through a weekend unless they're transfixed
before a marathon of football games. Women internalize these messages:
That's the way men are. That's the way life is. Get over it.
And while the media is happy to sell us the myth of the unattainable
happy relationship, some of us have come to believe in it because of our
own experiences.
Some of us:
(a) Had parents who treated each other indifferently, (b) had parents
who outright hated each other, (c) had fathers who ignored us as children,
(d) had a parent who suffered from alcoholism, (e) had mothers who would
rather have been doing something else, or (f) had a parent who suffered
from a mental illness.
And so, we learned to associate love with pain. It's all we knew.
Others among us grew up in perfectly happy homes with parents who loved
each other and delighted in us, but we still managed to:
(a) Internalize negative messages we heard from our friends' parents
who were unhappily married, or
(b) Internalize negative messages we saw elsewhere (I know a woman who,
during her impressionable teenage years, babysat for a couple who gave
each other the silent treatment and expected her to relay messages. She
also babysat for another family, where the father once came home early and
started reading a porn magazine!).
As a result of this programming, we set low bars for the behavior we'll
accept from boyfriends or husbands. Hey, it's better than being alone,
right?
Wrong.
If you're putting up with substandard behavior from men, make decision
to stop. Refuse to date anybody until you attract a man who makes your
happiness a priority. Trust me; such a man will come into your life and
stay there.
Treat him as you have come to expect him to treat you, which means with
affection, respect, and consideration. Does this sound boring to you? If
it does, please examine your feelings about relationships and see if they
haven't determined the kind of men you attract.
You see, once you stop dating men who disappoint you but excite you,
you can make room for a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be
loved--and who excites you. Love and excitement are important, but if
they're accompanied by pain, something's wrong. You'll never be truly
happy with a guy who lets you down.
Ask yourself, "Where did I ever get the idea that love has to hurt?"
Give yourself time to come up with the answers. Take stock of whether
your relationship is worth saving. If you speak up, will it make a
difference? If not, are you willing to make room for a man who will love
you and make you laugh instead of cry for a change?
"Because when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it's
very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced
without pain." -Gloria Steinem, "Revolution from Within."
If you tend to attract men who disappoint you (by cheating on you, not
showing up when they say they will, or just refusing to get off the
couch), you may be confusing love with pain.
So many of us have been brought up to believe that pain is normal, even
expected, in a love relationship. Without it, the relationship seems flat,
boring. We crave drama. (Why is it that so many women have great sex after
a fight with a significant other?)
A happy, loving relationship eludes us because we don't recognize it
when we see it, or because we simply believe it's not possible (News
Flash: According to a recent Today Show, all men lie. All of them! I
wasn't aware that men have a monopoly on lying or other bad behavior. I
know some women who are breathtaking liars. Don't you?).
According to the media, men are incapable of remembering birthdays,
being monogamous, getting through a weekend unless they're transfixed
before a marathon of football games. Women internalize these messages:
That's the way men are. That's the way life is. Get over it.
And while the media is happy to sell us the myth of the unattainable
happy relationship, some of us have come to believe in it because of our
own experiences.
Some of us:
(a) Had parents who treated each other indifferently, (b) had parents
who outright hated each other, (c) had fathers who ignored us as children,
(d) had a parent who suffered from alcoholism, (e) had mothers who would
rather have been doing something else, or (f) had a parent who suffered
from a mental illness.
And so, we learned to associate love with pain. It's all we knew.
Others among us grew up in perfectly happy homes with parents who loved
each other and delighted in us, but we still managed to:
(a) Internalize negative messages we heard from our friends' parents
who were unhappily married, or
(b) Internalize negative messages we saw elsewhere (I know a woman who,
during her impressionable teenage years, babysat for a couple who gave
each other the silent treatment and expected her to relay messages. She
also babysat for another family, where the father once came home early and
started reading a porn magazine!).
As a result of this programming, we set low bars for the behavior we'll
accept from boyfriends or husbands. Hey, it's better than being alone,
right?
Wrong.
If you're putting up with substandard behavior from men, make decision
to stop. Refuse to date anybody until you attract a man who makes your
happiness a priority. Trust me; such a man will come into your life and
stay there.
Treat him as you have come to expect him to treat you, which means with
affection, respect, and consideration. Does this sound boring to you? If
it does, please examine your feelings about relationships and see if they
haven't determined the kind of men you attract.
You see, once you stop dating men who disappoint you but excite you,
you can make room for a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be
loved--and who excites you. Love and excitement are important, but if
they're accompanied by pain, something's wrong. You'll never be truly
happy with a guy who lets you down.
Ask yourself, "Where did I ever get the idea that love has to hurt?"
Give yourself time to come up with the answers. Take stock of whether
your relationship is worth saving. If you speak up, will it make a
difference? If not, are you willing to make room for a man who will love
you and make you laugh instead of cry for a change?
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